An excellent piece of slam poetry from Guante on how the REAL man concept is so unhelpful and shaming to men. This is what I’m talking about. Please listen – transcipt is printed below http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayzwzGB2kXw http://www.guante.info/ TEN RESPONSES TO THE PHRASE “MAN UP.” 1. f*** you. 2. If you want to question my masculinity, like a schoolyard [...] Read more »
30 tips on being man – an emotionally fit man!
Be courageous in actions and words (Emotionally brave) Show vulnerability – when you hurt, feel it, emote it (Emotionally Fit) Be authentic – be real, dare being you. (Be aware and congruent) Show warmth, tenderness and love Learn to listen to your body – be kind to your body Be a connected, involved and loving father to your children Good [...] Read more »
Take the REAL man test?
Below are 30 indicators that will reveal your REAL man status – how REAL are you? Siring children / sowing your seed… More children = more man Be hard – build a big strong body, be tough, rigid and impenetrable Sexual conquests (find them, feel them, f*** them, forget them) Be popular – Make loads of mates never be a [...] Read more »
Man or Mouse?
Below are some of the phrases used to shame men and their masculinity - Are you man enough? What are you – man or mouse? What sort of man are you? Call yourself a man? You’re not a real man! Man-up! Grow some balls? What a pathetic excuse for a man Stop being a girl – and any other [...] Read more »
Being a ‘Real’ man is bad for your health
Catherine Bennett recently wrote an article in the Observer entitled ‘It’s time we ditched this bogus notion of real manhood. In this article she refers to the results from a recently published report from the Samaritans entitled “Men, Suicide and Society” which suggests that societies expectations of men leads to high levels of depression, lack [...] Read more »
From boys to men
Following on from my last post called the ‘Male Emotion’ this post seeks to examine what happened to men’s normal broad range of feelings. Male infants and female infants equally express the full spectrum of emotions, in fact the majority of research would recognise that male infants are more emotionally expressive then female infants. So what [...] Read more »
Lack of discourse on masculinity is failing men
Perhaps it is time to have a discussion about patriarchy and misogyny again? I am aware that the word is loaded and that many men feel that some ‘feminists’ have used this terminology to condemn all men as been bad. However the basic concept of patriarchy is the supremacy of men and by that definition – women [...] Read more »
Are these men monsters?
Are these men monsters? Are they responsible for their crimes? Was it there fault or the fault of society? Was it the girls fault? Last week nine men from Pakistani descent were convicted for grooming and sexually abusing young girls in the greater Manchester area in the UK. Most of the discussion has revolved around the racial ethnicity [...] Read more »
Screaming Men
These verses are taken from a poem called Screaming men, written in a collection of poems with the same title ( see book cover below) by a friend of mine – David Jackson. (1998) Some floundering men still scream for change. No new men or wild men these. Not men who fill in the daylight [...] Read more »
